The main challenge of any ambitious project is the unexpected disappointment from unexpected obstacles. The doom and gloom of setbacks can be surprisingly morose. Yet an antidote is always readily available. and indeed required for any entrepreneur or anyone shaking up an organization with coaching concepts. It’s cultivating a sense of up-leveled gratitude to meet the challenge and get to the next vista point. How do you cultivate your up-leveled gratitude?
Thank you, Coach Training EDU community, for an amazing 2019 and a golden opportunity to make 2020 our best year yet. Thank you to our HQ staff, who work with creativity, consistency, and dedication to the mission and the company. Thank you to our fantastic trainers who deliver courses with passion and precision. And thank you to the schools, organizations, and participants who are choosing to become trained and certified life coaches. What do you notice when you fill the room with appreciation and take a deep breath?
The crafting of a measure for gratitude revealed a few keys insights. Frequency is the most commonly considered aspect of gratitude with intensity a close second. The remaining aspects are density, the number of people you thank for any given blessing, and span, the width of your life that you feel grateful. Taking all four aspects together, you suddenly have a sophisticated structure to measure the quality and nature of gratitude.
I have a thought-emotion experiment for you to try. Imagine something challenging. It can be something in the past or something happening now or in the near future. Then shift, for only a minute or two, to a perspective of being deeply grateful for the challenge. What do you notice when you shift perspectives?
Some theorist place gratitude as one of the core moral emotion. It has a power to shape society in the same ways that empathy, sympathy, guilt, fear, and shame do. The more one feels gratitude, the more one is likely to do something that makes someone else feel grateful. It has a forward-feeding cycle that once sparked, creates positive ripple effects.
What helps your spark gratitude?
[008 Research Review | GRATITUDE series: 1] The beauty of the design of counter balanced systems in the human body is worthy of awe and wonder. This post explores the chapter of gratitude in Character Strengths and Virtues.
In the process of researching so much about positive psychology, certain pattens from the past start to make so much sense. Ideas such as growth mindset, broaden and build, and the experience of flow adds a theoretical framework to design a life.
In many positive psychology studies on self-theories, having a fixed mindset is definitely the less desirable of the two options. Growth mindset gets all the glory. However, too much growth mindset without ever shifting into a performance zone, leads to a path of inaction, hesitancy, and endless preparation.
Staying in a performance zone creates an artificial limit on growth. The stress from always having to win adds pressure that stymies creativity. The long-term cost of using the fear of failure as a short-term performance boost shows up over time.
Our critical selves are often hardest on ourselves. The inner critic doles out harsh judgments to keep us safe and protected. In an ironic twist, the inner critic deep down cares most about what others think, and it chases the constant intangible benchmark of the approval of others.